Narcissism seems to be a popular topic these days to throw around. Narcissism is a spectrum of behaviors with only a small percentage of people actually suffering from a serious disorder. What is really going on here though? There are many psychologists available on platforms that can assist in understanding narcissistic behaviors and healing from the abuse within intimate partnerships, friendships, families, and larger groups of humans.
To me, it is a spiritual disease. Much like alcoholism and other forms of addiction, at the root of it is trauma. It’s an “outside in” approach to life due to the disconnection from the essence or soul of an individual. The split off becomes so severe, the human forms their identity around their false ego. The shame is so deep and buried, the fear of an individual will do anything to remain in a power position to stay in control. They often want to be seen as good and even superior to everyone else. They do not act from real love because they do not love themselves. In fact, these individuals are actually lost in fear and emotional immaturity. As much as they compete for attention and jockey for position, the sad truth is that without attention, status or things they use to create their identity, they can often feel empty inside. This expression of a human distortion is just one of many. On the other side of the spectrum is the Empath. Yep, that’s me. Also, a spiritual disease created from trauma. The co-dependent to the alcoholic. It also creates a distortion around dependence, but not so much on things or status, but on people for survival. The Empath is usually the one who is the scapegoat in dysfunctional systems because they are seen as vulnerable and dependent. So the chaos and unhappiness is projected on this one person to carry it for the entire group. The scapegoat is the truth teller because they speak up when blamed for things they have not done. These are learned strategies carried down for generations of humans. At the root is fear, scarcity, survival and trauma. A disconnection from our own divinity and higher heart power. The greatest blessing of being a human is our ability to feel genuine love, use our imaginations and create. We are all blessed by God in our true abilities. Yet when we get stuck in trauma, we get disconnected from the very things that make us human. Here’s the good news though. We are a human family who at the moment, I believe, is undergoing a gigantic awakening to remember who we are. In many respects, it is a great humbling because in order to get to the good stuff, the love and creativity expressed freely, we must walk through the shadow lands of our collective distortions. A big giant dark night of our dysfunctional family. Every individual human is in a different place on this journey. Some are way ahead of the pack so that they can assist others. Some are acting out in terrible ways so they can teach others about boundaries, tough love and forgiveness. Some are digging in their heels into the old ways so that we all don’t race ahead too quickly. It’s all part of the divine plan. It’s messy. It’s scary. It’s ugly. Triggering for everyone. There is loss of life. There is suffering. There are also highly evolved new humans born every day. The human collective has included individuals doing despicable things for eons of time. Yet it also includes an individual as divine as Jesus Christ, who was in human form showing us the best of the best so we could follow him and his example. If I was taking the easy path, I’d write about things that are fun, light and feel good. That’s not what is in the highest good for myself and others though. Nope, it’s all about uncomfortable truths so we can all do and be better for the next generations of humans. I did not take the long slog of a soul path for growth, maturity and purpose just so I could waste the wisdom on trivial ego pursuits. I consider myself an expert scapegoat. Ultimately the scapegoat wants to make the system better and more functional. What role are you playing in this collective human awakening? I also like to call it the great human humbling because when we see the truth of ourselves and the distortions we have carried within our families and systems overall, it is a humbling experience, indeed.
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